Adrian Pei – Healthy Leaders

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Adrian Pei

About the Author

Adrian's passion is to make leadership connections about topics that matter. His current job is to oversee leadership training and content development for an Asian American ministry organization. Adrian consults, writes, speaks, and designs content. He loves innovating, collaborating, and seeing a project through from start to finish. Adrian graduated with degrees from Stanford University and Fuller Seminary and lives with his family in sunny southern California.

Great Answers or Great Questions?

Four questions I love to ask, and three unexpected benefits that come with them.

Before We Criticize Our Leaders

How do we respond when our leaders fail or disappoint us?

Resisting Temptation: The Urgent and the Loud

Conformity is doing the minimum, the easiest thing … which is usually to see and react to our immediate surroundings and behave like everybody else – whether on e-mail, social media, or at a social gathering. Leadership is about seeing and noticing more.

Ask, Don’t Assume! (Open and Closed Systems)

What I’ve learned is that there are two modes we get into as leaders ‒ closed and open. I wouldn’t let anything or anybody get in so everything stayed the same.

What Is Leadership?

I like to think and write about leadership a lot – I love that there are so many ways to look at it. My passion is to make unique connections between these insights, and raise important questions for leaders to consider.

My Leadership Growth List (Things I’m Working On)

Check out what I’m growing in my garden this year. And in my leadership.

Indirectness: Is It Good or Bad?

Is it time for us to go beyond “East vs. West” leadership charts?

Six Postures of Ethnic Minority Culture Towards Majority Culture

When you hear the term “majority culture,” what is the first thing that comes to mind? What thoughts or feelings arise within you? What images or memories of the past resurface?

Practical Lessons in Marriage and Leadership

My wife and I wanted to share some more thoughts about what we’ve learned in our past 10 years of marriage (and leadership) about keeping our relationship strong.

How to Survive 10 Years of Marriage (and Leadership!)

On our 10-year anniversary, my wife and I discuss our biggest lessons about longevity in relationships and leadership.

Are You Too Hard on Yourself?

For many leaders, our biggest challenge isn’t giving love and encouragement — it’s receiving them.

From Expectation to Gratitude: The Greatest Poverty of All

A time when I experienced two extremes ‒ gratitude and entitlement ‒ through money.

From Passivity to Empowerment

Leading in weakness does not mean passivity, and it’s not just for times of crisis or exhaustion.

When Our Best Isn’t Enough: From Control to Acceptance

Sometimes we’re not enough … but maybe we were never meant to be.

Letting Others Be Strong For Us: From Insecurity to Generosity

When we’re not strong, we can notice and appreciate those who are.

The Evolution of a Leader

Don’t be discouraged if you wrestle with yourself in leadership … it’s normal, and it can help others truly know you.

Less Is More

Every dialogue can be either a competition, or a bond of connection with another person.

Are You Drained or Tired?

When are we truly loving people, and when are we just getting “sucked dry?”

Great Leaders are Great Observers

Many of the leaders I’ve known aren’t too quick to speak, despite their many years of life. They have a quiet confidence about them and an inner security in who they are. They look at the people and world around them with curiosity and they listen more than they talk.

Why Don’t We “Circle Back” More Often

Even if we make a mistake, it’s almost never too late to “try again.”